Ask an Expert With Brenton Surgeoner
Brenton Surgeoner is a couples therapist and counselor based in Central, Hong Kong, specializing in relationship repair, attachment, and conflict. He works with individuals and couples ready to do the real work, whether that's saving the relationship or ending it well.
William J. FerrellonJun 19, 2026Couples therapist, counselor, and educator Brenton Surgeoner sits down to answer the question nobody talks about: why do people who genuinely love each other keep hurting each other?
Brenton breaks down the neurobiology behind relationship conflict, why threat responses that predate your relationship by 20 years are running the show, and what it actually takes to repair a relationship before it hits rock bottom. We cover the pursuer-withdrawer dynamic, the art of the "do over," and why a relationship that goes through a crisis can come out stronger and more beautiful than it started.
If you've ever wondered whether couples therapy is worth it, whether your relationship is past saving, or just why you keep having the same fight on repeat, this one is for you.
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