Ask an Expert with Viv Kan

Most men think their sex problems come from performance.

Viv Kan and I break down why that’s dead wrong.

In this conversation, mindfulness intimacy coach Viv Kan (@mindfulintimacy) explains how traditional masculinity, emotional numbness, and performance pressure sabotage connection in the bedroom.

We talk about:

• Why men shut down emotionally

• How “armor” kills desire

• Why women crave vulnerability more than perfection

• How porn + media distort real intimacy

• The shift from performance → connection

• Practical tools couples can use today (eye gazing, kissing, attunement, communication)

If you want better sex, deeper connection, and a relationship that actually feels alive again, this episode is for you.

Find Viv:

Instagram: @mindfulintimacy

YouTube‪@mindfulintimacyviv‬

Website: mindfulintimacy.co